This may in fact be a crucial read for men, it may give you some insight, and then again, it may not. Not all women are like this however I know quite a few that are, so in this situation, minority rules.
Me and beach guy are still cruising along, even though I was a total asshole, sooky, whinging bitch on Sunday when he left me for the beach. Seems he didn’t really give a shit about it though because he keeps texting me ‘babe’ and including numerous ‘xxxxx’ which secretly I adore.
So, one of my issues with dating is boredom, usually happening very early on in the piece. I am a very anxious person and I act like a child with ADHD, always on to something new, running around and looking for the next shiny object to take my fancy. I once went on medication because I wore myself out, I then became a vegetable couch potato, it was horrible. I clearly stopped taking that medication and learnt more natural ways to calm myself down, like yoga.
Still, even with yoga and its calming ways, I continue to live a fast paced life. Part of this is being kept on my toes and being challenged. This can either be at work or in my personal life and definitely has to occur in my dating life. I am very head strong so any man I date who can be ballsy enough to say “stop whinging” or “calm down” wins a bucket load of points in my book. They also win points for keeping me entertained and on my toes because as soon as it appears ‘too hard’ or ‘boring’ I am forgetting about it and the door has already closed behind me.
This leads me back to beach guy. At first I thought maybe he just wasn’t interested but I really do think he is, he is just busy and it seems catching up is just too much hard work, on both parts.
He went back to work this week and has told me how full on it has been, he seems quite senior at the company he is with so I get he is limited on time however mix that with travelling between Melbourne and then his beach house, a good hour and fifteen minute drive each way and the guy is never available. Now he has a wedding on Saturday and has suggested a catch up next week, on Monday, however I have two client dinners to welcome in the New Year and I am working on some budgets for the company I am with, so now I am not available. And to be honest, If I have not seen you or barley spoken to you in a week since our last encounter then chances are I am going to be over it, all the excitement in seeing you has been drained from me whilst I wait for us to both have free time.
I feel like such a jerk for writing this, especially because I really, really like beach guy but I can’t help the person I am and if making plans to see one another is going to be this difficult well maybe it won’t work after all. I say this now because he is nowhere near me, if he was sitting right next me I would be a giggling school girl in love.
I also tried to put myself in his shoes. I have a pretty insane job at times, some days I get home and I have forgotten to eat a single thing, sometimes I even forget that I have a bladder and need to pee occasionally. However if I really like someone I will always shift things around and make time to see them because it excites me. Maybe the fact beach guy is not really making an effort to squeeze me in is a sign that he isn’t really that into me (I read that book “he’s just not that into you” it was a gift from a friend, I am pretty sure it was a hint).
Hrm….I guess they can’t all love you.
Men, if you like a woman, pursue it fast because before you know it, you have become busy, didn’t arrange a date and its over before it even had a chance to begin.